Why does feminine beauty sometimes bring out the worst in men?

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Why does feminine beauty sometimes bring out the worst in men?

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Now before you get the wrong idea I am NOT claiming women should change their lifestyles to stop getting raped or catcalled or molested or groped or sexually harassed. They have every right to keep wearing pretty clothes that make them feel empowered with their beauty, or that it's their fault if any of those happen. The blame rests solely, solely upon the offender. But... it is just an honest, curious question. Why is it that beauty sometimes brings out the worst in men? Why? I look at a pretty girl, I'd love to get into her pants, lol, but that's all. I certainly wouldn't stalk or harass her or send her dick photos. Who fucking does that? And I don't buy their excuses that they couldn't control their dicks. I feel just as deprived and hungry and starved for a bit of physical intimacy, but... I don't do that. Besides looking and admiring the perfection of the female form, lol, I don't act out on it. Why is it that beauty just brings out the worst in so many of these men, even if they aren't the majority of men? From things like catcalling to the worst and most inhumane act of sexual assault? I don't get it. Are respecting women's boundaries really that hard?
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You misunderstand the nature of sexual predators. It's not really a reaction to beauty. It's about pride, power, and control of beautiful people.
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This is one thing I hate about the Feminists. They have made people think it's ALL about power. Why isn't there an element of sexual lust to it as well? It's not a power-hungry freak. It can be an ordinary person too. And I don't understand why.
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Yukaphile wrote: Thu Jun 28, 2018 4:21 am This is one thing I hate about the Feminists. They have made people think it's ALL about power. Why isn't there an element of sexual lust to it as well? It's not a power-hungry freak. It can be an ordinary person too. And I don't understand why.
Well I guess you hate me then.

Your lack of understanding comes from you not seeing how power and lust intersect.

Have you seen Archer? There's one episode where Lana realizes she's been cheated on, and decides to have sex with everyone in the office except the person who cheated on her. Except...she doesn't. She tells them that for handing over some money, she will claim they had sex with her, super-hot lady. And almost every man in the office takes the offer.

Because the appeal of a hot girl is less important in this society than in bragging "I banged that hot girl." Because it's not as much about visceral gratification as it is about pride.

Does that help?
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It does, actually. Thanks.
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Holy shit. I'm glad i helped then! :)
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I don't see it as a mark of pride for me, I just wanna be close to some girl, and have her feel good too, and treating her as a dog or an object is... repulsive to me. Very glad my mother taught me proper values like that.
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Agression is in intimate part of sex, and given the lack of restraint sex can induce it causes issues with uninhibited agression.

Look on my reply in you GD post YUk for more and why this Otter's nose looks the way it does:

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Fuzzy Necromancer wrote: Thu Jun 28, 2018 4:24 am Your lack of understanding comes from you not seeing how power and lust intersect.
The two come together but that does not mean where one exists the other is to be found in the same sad way sex and lust do not always walk hand in hand.
Because it's not as much about visceral gratification as it is about pride.
And immature reactions over pride that both sexes can be prone to.

If you want to pick stereotypes out from shows, one need only look at the stereotype of the jilted ex-girlfriend throwing everything of her exes out on the street while deliberately breaking certain things like TV.

All your example shows is the next of problems that can from sex in a work place, especially when it's being done when one of the participants is an immature idiot.

And this is hardly coming from someone who's lived in the "bro" culture or whatever you ant to call it. My family emphasized things like decent conduct and not being promiscuous to both sexes seeing virtue as something neither sex had a monopoly over, and that any failure wasn't some end of the world if it did happen.
Yukaphile wrote: Thu Jun 28, 2018 6:05 am I don't see it as a mark of pride for me, I just wanna be close to some girl, and have her feel good too, and treating her as a dog or an object is... repulsive to me. Very glad my mother taught me proper values like that.
Same here and it's all the more depressing that instead of seeing positive things in which to emulate in both sexes, it seems the trend in our modern times is to look at the worst and most dysfunctional of each and say "Me too!".
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Hey Yuka, if you want to learn more or help out, I recommend going to https://www.rainn.org/
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