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Whose flute will always summon the green or later white dragon (then falcon).

Suicide... the saddest of all deaths. Especially when it is someone as beloved, as talented and as rich as he is because its hard to see why.
I can hazard a guess though. He is currently going through a divorce according to Wikipedia. Poor man may have been about to lose everything. Why anyone gets married anymore is beyond me when they always end so tragically.

clearspira wrote: ↑Sun Nov 20, 2022 7:12 pm Suicide... the saddest of all deaths. Especially when it is someone as beloved, as talented and as rich as he is because its hard to see why.
I can hazard a guess though. He is currently going through a divorce according to Wikipedia. Poor man may have been about to lose everything. Why anyone gets married anymore is beyond me when they always end so tragically.

They don't always end tragically. It's true that for the last several decades there have been very high rates of divorce, but many marriages still remained intact during that timeframe. In fact, if I'm not mistaken we are seeing lower rates of divorce among younger people than the last generation or two for a number of reasons. (Obviously we can't yet say what will happen when these couples get older, but we can compare their marriages for benchmarks we've already reached, e.g., 1 year, 5 year, maybe 10 year, etc.)

One important factor to consider is that statistics have consistently been - even when divorce rates were high - that marriage carries with it all sorts of desirable benefits in everything from finances to health to longevity, so in the worst of times for marriage it's still been something that has been recognized as beneficial if it can be maintained.

- and why not aim for success anyways, even if you might fail? Only one team wins the World Series, but all of them show up to play on opening day. There are all sorts of comparisons like this we could make but the point is, why not try, especially when, as with marriage, there are clear benefits? I think this is true even if your only motivations are sentimental, but though I could be wrong, I suspect that even if we looked at it purely pragmatically and did an expected value calculation factoring in the gains from marriage and losses from divorce (financial, emotional, considering things like life expectancy, health, etc.) that at least *trying* marriage would be the better choice.

Three words:

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup.

Frustration wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:12 pm Three words:

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup.

Even that isn't foolproof though. Nowadays all she needs to say is ''he was abusive and coerced me'' to put it through court.

I admit that I can't suggest a strategy to overcome the idiocy and absurdity of our dying civilization, so you've got me there.

Always sad to see suicide claim another victim. His character was the Biggest Hero in the World to me when I was sevenish.

clearspira wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:18 pm

Frustration wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:12 pm Three words:

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup.

Even that isn't foolproof though. Nowadays all she needs to say is ''he was abusive and coerced me'' to put it through court.

I doubt that voids a prenup.

BridgeConsoleMasher wrote: ↑Thu Nov 24, 2022 12:48 pm

clearspira wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:18 pm

Frustration wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:12 pm Three words:

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup.

Even that isn't foolproof though. Nowadays all she needs to say is ''he was abusive and coerced me'' to put it through court.

I doubt that voids a prenup.

Not automatically. But its enough to throw it into court. All she needs is tears and a good lawyer

clearspira wrote: ↑Thu Nov 24, 2022 4:02 pm

BridgeConsoleMasher wrote: ↑Thu Nov 24, 2022 12:48 pm

clearspira wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:18 pm

Frustration wrote: ↑Wed Nov 23, 2022 8:12 pm Three words:

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup.

Even that isn't foolproof though. Nowadays all she needs to say is ''he was abusive and coerced me'' to put it through court.

I doubt that voids a prenup.

Not automatically. But its enough to throw it into court. All she needs is tears and a good lawyer

You should generally be on the same level as your spouse as far as getting a lawyer that can see eye to eye for you. Don't forget that there are abusive men too, so you should be able to distinguish yourself from one, even if by another's terms (and by that I mean the public); and a lot of the time there is a lot of dust.

Marriage is serious business though. The state recognizes your personal estate as that with your wife's. That generalization sets a lot of the standards for what people end up being so shocked about as far as divorce settlements go. A prenup literally gets around a all of that noise, and you should be able to keep your goods checked on your own accord.