Okay, I'm sorry for Everything

[BridgeConsoleMasher]

We all go a little mad... so they say.

[McAvoy]

at times, I've done the latter but I try to do the former and I mostly stick to ones I trust or at least, used to trust.

I'm getting better but I don't think I'll have complete peace of mind until either this toxicity on the left is addressed or at least, I am no longer told I am just as bad as right wingers for wanting to be the better person.

DBF, I'm gonna ask a question and I don't mean it rhetorically, like in a hostile or snide way, I genuinely want to know: How old are you? You can be vague if you like.

Another thing: what else is going on in your life that's weighing on you and stressing you out?

I ask these things because how you're behaving feels similar to how I'd react to some troubles in my life when young combined with the behaviour of many troubled teens I knew that became obsessed with current events trends. This might just be the young being young, but it could also be you seeking a way of coping. Maybe it could be you desiring to solve this problem because you lack control over your own troubles even if this issue is beyond your scope of control. People always love to save the world when they can't save themselves.

Think about it and fi need be, just PM me if you want to say something but not in public.

That's basically what politics is. Like, not exactly of course, but that tends to be the flow of things. Politics though is also more about thinking as "us" with that being inclusive of everybody. It just happens to get divided between people who disagree about the best way to go about that.

This is where the youth run afoul of timeless troubles. They first realize how troublesome and messy something like politics is, assume it's broken and can be fixed and that no one has ever really tried because they've come into their newly expanded intellect and presume that they see the world clearer than all those silly older folks who certainly don't think as sharply as they do.

I'm actually 31 but also, I am special needs and feel like I am not doing anything with my life.

If it makes you feel any better there are plenty of 31 years who feel the same way.

[sayla0079]

I'm 39 years old and disabled and I feel that way a lot.

[Beastro]

I'm actually 31 but also, I am special needs and feel like I am not doing anything with my life.

I asked if you were young because often this sort of thing is common in teenagers eager to go out into the world, but that's not always the case, so don't feel bad about it. And you're at least aware enough to know you're doing the bolded bit. That's commendable as most people aren't and stumble through life not know why they struggle.

Years ago I ran into counseling as my love and jumped into helping others, but then I ran into something interesting: Every time someone got helped, thanked me and moved on I got filled with anger for days. Not at them or even at me,I was just mad. Then it hit me: I had helped clean up their mess in life and now I was left with returning to my own untouched pile of crap I'd ignored to help the other person.

I needed to work on my own issues and start sorting them out before I could go fully into helping others. Even now years later as I train to become a counselor and help people here and there I'm mindful to keep myself as the main focus, if only to not become a hypocrite.

You need to find something to pursue in life that will grip you. This concern is you grasping for anything. It's like sailors lost at sea in WWII for weeks after their warship sank. Guess what their conversations were entirely about? Food. They'd go on about what sumptuous meals they'd have once rescued, they'd even talk about movies they'd watched and focus on what meals people had in them. They did it because they were starving and their unconscious was obsessed with that subject. Me, it's been a long while since I was in a relationship and I can recognize that that is what my mind daily goes over. For me, I need to step back from self-improvement and start doing other things like dating, I guess.

Look around and see what you can find because this will not satisfy you for long and probably will leave you empty and upset later like I was before. To go back to the food, look for a good hearty meal that will fill you up and stop snacking on potato chips that leave you hungry hours later.

I'll also add that I'm saying this from the perspective of someone a few years older than you whose had a rather long road to find his way. At your age I was still struggling to focus on myself and grow my interest in counseling deeper than just an idle fancy. Look around and you'll find something. Once you do things can move rather quickly after that, even if they take time.

[BridgeConsoleMasher]

I'm actually 31 but also, I am special needs and feel like I am not doing anything with my life.

Years ago I ran into counseling as my love and jumped into helping others, but then I ran into something interesting: Every time someone got helped, thanked me and moved on I got filled with anger for days. Not at them or even at me,I was just mad. Then it hit me: I had helped clean up their mess in life and now I was left with returning to my own untouched pile of crap I'd ignored to help the other person.

I needed to work on my own issues and start sorting them out before I could go fully into helping others. Even now years later as I train to become a counselor and help people here and there I'm mindful to keep myself as the main focus, if only to not become a hypocrite.

Curious on your thoughts about both the manner in which talking about personal issues exacerbates one's own, and any considerable responsibility to give structure to one's own problems before assessing others.

[McAvoy]

I'm 39 years old and disabled and I feel that way a lot.

For me it was around age 31-32 that I figured out what to do with my life. Post Navy I went to college for Civil Engineering and turned out that the math was way beyond me. I am actually two classes short of my bachelor's for Engineering. Both heavy in math and more letters than numbers now.

Anyway I went back to what I did well in the Navy being a aircraft mechanic.

You would be surprised how many people would be on their second or third career by they reach nearly 40. Gone are the days of having the same job for 40 years and retiring.

[sayla0079]

I can't even find a job, everytime it's the same thing I don't meet their qualifications.

[McAvoy]

I can't even find a job, everytime it's the same thing I don't meet their qualifications.

Have you looked into job placement for the disabled? There has to be some organization that does that.

[sayla0079]

I can't even find a job, everytime it's the same thing I don't meet their qualifications.

Have you looked into job placement for the disabled? There has to be some organization that does that.

I have they are trying to help me but its a slow process.

[Beastro]

I'm actually 31 but also, I am special needs and feel like I am not doing anything with my life.

Years ago I ran into counseling as my love and jumped into helping others, but then I ran into something interesting: Every time someone got helped, thanked me and moved on I got filled with anger for days. Not at them or even at me,I was just mad. Then it hit me: I had helped clean up their mess in life and now I was left with returning to my own untouched pile of crap I'd ignored to help the other person.

I needed to work on my own issues and start sorting them out before I could go fully into helping others. Even now years later as I train to become a counselor and help people here and there I'm mindful to keep myself as the main focus, if only to not become a hypocrite.

Curious on your thoughts about both the manner in which talking about personal issues exacerbates one's own, and any considerable responsibility to give structure to one's own problems before assessing others.

There's running from your problems by trying to help others and then there's actively working on yours before starting down the path of doing so before then using that as a means of self-improve that will better your life rather than allow it to stagnate.

Over ten years ago I was hiding from my issues. Now after spending the intermediate working on them I'm still not out in the clear (no one every really is), but I now reflect upon what I say to then apply it to myself.

An example: My best friend in school has had terrible struggles. He's deep in depression and very hard to talk to because he is so negative and takes everything upon himself. He always finds a way to blame himself for things, and he's just a pain in the ass to be around at times. I've talked with him, but I also recognize my own leanings towards negative emotion and how I can be similar when down. Recognizing that years ago, I've been working on that aspect of myself but talking with him is a further opportunity by practicing what I preach whenever I feel the inclination to be a downer to be around.