MixedDrops wrote:Linkara wrote:The thing about "flaunting" so-called SJW things, to me that feels like the same argument people make of "Ugh, I don't hate gay people, but do they have to flaunt it in public so much?" when referring to, say, couples holding hands or making out - something they won't equally complain about heterosexual couples doing.
This sums up my feelings on how people are criticizing DIS and several modern shows on this particular aspect very well. We hear so often now, "I don't want politics shoved down my throat", when in fact when you look at the show itself the aspects they're talking about are just kinda there. The implication in such cases is that the simple existence of minorities is political to people who make this compliant. So many times I've found myself in conversations with people who start with a statement to that effect and it only takes playing 20 questions a little bit to figure out it's really just that they don't like seeing a minority on screen.
You don't learn Stamets is gay until like, the fifth episode or something, and it hasn't taken up a great deal of screentime until recently.
So, I recently had a variation on this discussion with a coworker. The point of objection? Stamets and his partner.
I will make a "confession": seeing two men kiss makes me uncomfortable. When each of these kisses occurred, I looked away from the screen. I am not shy about stating my discomfort. I am also not shy about saying, A) a gay couple in a loving relationship is perfectly fine to have in any work, fictional or otherwise, and B) Discovery in general is actually pretty good, and this gay couple really doesn't detract from that, my discomfort aside. Also, C) ...and this may be a low-grade spoiler...this romance actually becomes quite plot-relevant at a point. In short, while brief bits of their romance may cause me some discomfort, they're a good and necessary part of Discovery.
This coworker, though, threw out some standard anti-gay talking points - a questionable decision, since our tech lead is a lesbian, and was sitting not 15 feet away - and claimed it prevented him from watching the show due to 'the writers pushing an agenda'.
I'm taken back to Burnham's analysis of the Terran Empire: "They are motivated by fear of anything and everything Other." Yes, there is the old response of questioning just how straight these people really are when it comes to it inherent in that, and possibly even a fair question. More simply, however, the feelings of discomfort I feel when I see something I don't agree with, are magnified significantly in these people, I think. What they're experiencing is not akin to my feeling of, "ewww gay kiss! >_<", but rather, "Oh shit, two men are
kissing! They're coming after me, and they're armed with loaded, nuclear copies of
Magic Mike!"
There's so great a fear and distortion of perception, focused through inherent narrow-mindedness, that what manifests is...well, shit Trump or any other fascist demagogue has ever spouted.
So, my conclusion? I'm afraid I don't have one. One can reasonably say the motives for these sorts of omniphobic statements is being a narrow person. There's more to it than that, though. In my coworker's case, they're not a dumb person. While I can't denounce the homophobic comments this person made strongly enough - they
are an asshole - I also can't help but think what's needed here is rehabilitation. These people weren't born scared of everything Other to the point of chronic verbal diarrhea. Something
made them that way, and I think that needs to be addressed by us as a society.
Most people, I think, can handle the presence of a gay couple, or naval officer who's both black and female simultaneously, or someone from a very different culture, without acting like an asshole to them. In our society, we have created a 'fold' of being able to live with each other peaceably, drawing on each other's strengths and talents. People who don't behave that way are perfectly deserving of the label, "asshole", but that's not going to bring them back into the fold, and out of their imaginary world of total, black terror.
Shaming people into submission does not work.
I will never say I'm not judging. I will always say, though, maybe their fears are overblown, much as my own discomfort at two people in a loving relationship expressing that love to each other probably is.
I am straight, but I do my darnedest every day to not be narrow. I think that the Discovery Stamets romance has forced me to look my own discomfort in the eye, and question it, and be willing to discuss it in terms that don't include fear and OOGA BOOGA!