Assuming you're not speaking rhetorically, you just have to ask in a place where the person is in a safe position to say "no", like you're not their boss, or you don't have them tied up and suspended over a vat of acid. Then, if they do say "no", you let the subject drop and don't push them to "just give you a chance" or "just the tip". And don't try to buy sexual services from anyone unless they have made it explicitly clear to you that they are a sex worker.Madner Kami wrote:But how do you figure out when or if a particular person is ok with you asking, when the very act of asking already is intruding in their personal space? You are pushing assumptions about the person onto the person itself, which is in an of itself, an act of agression and opression. You should pay more attention to recent developments in the fields of SJWisms.
Also "don't come on to housemates who are a third your age" is a good general provision.
I don't see why people insist on pretending the question of consent is a big mystery, especially considering that very useful post we had with the video about tea.
