I realized that by blocking people for being illogical in disagreements I was cutting off mostly one side, and I might be more tolerant. Maybe. I've never really tried tolerance before, and I might be allergic.Yukaphile wrote: ↑Thu Apr 11, 2019 4:58 am Rare to find you addressing something I brought up. So lemme counter. Not disputing that, certainly, but I do believe this directly flies in the face of his dream of getting a black girlfriend. It's like he possesses no sense of self-awareness, not knowing most black women to be very liberal, very independent, and very opinionated. There is a stereotype black women are high-maintenance and hard to handle, but that's mainly because I see black women as being very tough after stuff like the Feminist movement and civil rights movement. If you're white and have a black girlfriend, you're going to expect a charged discussion on racial and gender issues in America, but... he isn't very mature about this. And he's not very educated. So any differences you could overlook because of the deep love you have for your partner? I don't see working out for him. He even admits to looking down the shirt of his black coworkers at his job. It's appalling. Oh, and he claims to regret voting for Trump, but he still boils down the political mess in America to "Democrats vs. Republicans," "left vs. right," "liberals vs. conservatives," or as Chuck has and will probably put it again in the future:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ecn5be5MBJE
And shows no real signs of understanding the nuances or complexities that go into this. So him having voted for Trump and having shown no real signs of growth past that despite claims of regret feels like a false and hollow gesture, especially since I know what he's like in private, very intense, unstable, and asks stupid, offensive, disturbing questions.
I completely agree that it will be harder to find a black conservative girlfriend. But, on the plus side, I think a black conservative girlfriend, if he can find one, is, I think, less likely to see him as a white guy and more likely to see him as him. That's just my suspicion from personal experience, not something I can swear to.
That might still backfire if she thinks he's a jerk, and he might be -- grabbing a look down the shirt of a coworker isn't cool IMO, and I suspect it isn't a good sign in a romantic prospect. But at least there'd be a little hope; people can improve personal behavior more easily than change their skin color.