I wouldn't say any of that is part of our genetic make-up at all. Look at the Bonobo. 99% similar to us or something similar to that?
They got around the male physical strength advantage to form a matriarchy is a rather clever way: every time a male tries something against a female, EVERY other female in the group attacks that male. He is a match for one or two females but he isn't a match for all of them.
I am not advocating that in real life, but I don't think its unrealistic to say it could not have worked in real life either.